How is the Atmosphere in Your Home?

Reprint of a post from almost two years ago......

I heard a sermon given by Lindell Cooley of Grace Church in Nashville about the atmosphere in our homes. The message hit home and has remained in my heart and mind ever since. Each home, Christian or pagan, has an atmosphere. The atmosphere of some homes can be felt more strongly than others, but all have one. For a Christian with discernment, sometimes the chaos and evil in a home can be felt upon entering, if not shortly thereafter. Also, homes that are Godly and orderly can be felt as well.

It is important to actively cultivate the atmosphere in our homes to be peaceful, orderly, calming, and God-honoring. The times that we live in require diligence as Christians. We can invite what the Bible calls "unclean spirits" into our homes by laziness, apathy, or over-busyness. Once this type of atmosphere invades our homes, it is then even more of a spiritual battle to attain unity and peace. It is important to remember that the spiritual is even more real than the carnal (flesh), and certainly more eternal.

The busy things we fill our lives with are sometimes necessary, and I do emphasize sometimes, but are never more important than devoting the time needed to cultivate a Godly spirit within our homes. How can we direct the atmosphere in our homes? I know there are going to be some eye-rolls at this, but it doesn't change the truth of it. I believe one of the number one ways we damage the spiritual atmosphere in our homes is the media, and what we allow to fill our air-waves.

God doesn't change, and His holiness hasn't changed. We are saved freely by grace, but nevertheless that doesn't change a thing about God's character. Yet it never ceases to jolt me what Christians allow their eyes to see and their ears to hear. I guess we figure since even most pastors won't lay down the remote or get off the computer, why should we? Except for one thing. God's standard doesn't and hasn't changed, regardless of what the Church has compromised on. It's not okay, just because the majority says it's okay.

Because what the majority says is okay is rapidly deteriorating. And the spiritual battle is real. We were warned in scripture that the battle we fight is not carnal, against flesh and blood, but against spiritual powers and principalities. Leave this country and go to a tribal area and you will know how real the spiritual realm can be. I say again that just because America is wrapped up in daily living and 10-year goals doesn't mean that is the most important thing about life.

One of the most positive things we could do to improve our spiritual atmosphere, is to switch off the televisions and computers for a time and study God's word together on a daily basis. I read this in one of my books today, and it is worth repeating - "A woman after God's own heart is first and foremost a woman who has in her own heart a deep and abiding passion for God's Word. And her children- NOT the children at her church, not the women at her church, not her friends, neighbors or anyone else- but her own children are to receive the firstfruits of this burning personal passion."

My husband and I will eternally maintain that it is our job as parents to be the primary spiritual trainers and teachers of our children. We don't agree (any longer) with dropping them off at youth group or Sunday School and expecting them to do our job for us.  Honestly, the most rebellious time in two of our children's lives as teens was while they attended a youth group.   God tells parents explicitly in His Word that it is the parents' responsibility to spiritually train our children.

Can we do this with media blasting 24/7? Are we willing to do something about it? Hopefully, the answer to that is a resounding yes, because not only is the most holy God worth it, our children are absolutely worth it. Being careless about what is piped into our homes can invite those powers of darkness in. Adultery, lust, fornication, murder, violence, homosexuality, sorcery and pornography constantly beating the air-waves is like a direct portal for spirits to enter and wreak havoc in our families. God has spoken against all of these things - how can there not be a consequence for allowing it?

His grace doesn't protect us from the immediate consequences of sin, bad choices, or negligence. It grieves my heart so much that feeding our fleshly appetites for entertainment overrides our concern for the spiritual. How many in the Church today could even turn off all media for an extended period of time? Or how many would, is a better question... How important is wholeheartedly following God to us? Are we willing to fight for the atmosphere in our homes, which will then affect the whole of our family life? Do we love our children enough to not allow unrestricted access to the internet and television? Do we pay for our children to have internet on their phones?

Odds are increasingly great that they have viewed and will continue to view pornography. Do we pay for them to have satellite tv in their rooms? Odds are great that they have watched and will continue to watch sexually explicit programs when we aren't around. Will we fight for our families, or just hand them over to satan on a platter? If we aren't diligent with these things, we seriously might as well broadcast pornography in broad daylight and sit down and watch it with them.

This is not an age for assuming the innocence and good choices of our children; if we aren't making extreme efforts to thwart evil (including fervent prayer), satan will get them. He may not win their souls, but he will wreak hell in their lives and drag them down as far as he can. It's not just the tv that affects the atmosphere in our homes. The music we play or allow our children to listen to, the video games we allow them to play or play ourselves, the books we read, the sensuous magazines we look at or allow them to look at (even ones you can buy at the check-out counter), the movies we go see or rent, all affect the spiritual realm in our homes and lives.

 I have been there, being careless with what my eyes viewed and my ears heard, and that of my family. I have experienced the difference between a home where discernment is exercised hourly, daily, and one where discernment is thrown out the window for the sake of selfish, carnal satisfaction, or even laziness. The road to discipline in this area has been gradual, but steady, and I can tell you, I wouldn't go back to not caring for all the money in the world. I can feel the pleasure the Father has in the fact that our family is willing to make changes in these areas for the sake of our spiritual health, and ultimately, for Him and His holiness.

 It will be a lifetime commitment of prayer, discernment and willingness to take a stand, go against the tide, say no to our flesh when it collides with His standards, and remembering that all the activities and entertainment, all the busyness, even daily schedules should be for the ultimately eternal - if they aren't, they simply aren't worth the investment of time, or the risk they pose to the atmosphere of our homes.

America is all about her rights. Well, we have a right to a spiritually peaceful, content, God-honoring home. But it doesn't just happen. And it won't happen even with regular church attendance, Bible-studies, and all the worship CDs in the world if we are being careless in other areas, which invite the darkness in. Evil times require due diligence. When Jesus, our Unseen Guest, walks through our homes, we should want Him to feel like He belongs there, not like a stranger in a foreign land. Our homes, our families, and our very Holy God are worth the effort to make this happen.

Swimming Upstream: Living a counter-cultural life

It's been awhile since I have blogged, so I have a lot of thoughts built up in my head. I have a daughter,son-in-law and grandson in Africa and a daughter volunteering her time at Above Rubies about an hour and fifteen minutes from home, so the house is a lot quieter these days, with just Amber (13) and Josh (12) here with me during the day. I guess the point of this post is to share about our lives with its challenges and immense joys, and to say that the challenge of "swimming upstream" against the norms of our day can be discouraging at times, but that the life it has produced is well worth the effort and sometimes persecution.

I believe that daily routines are important in providing security to children, so our days during the school week (we homeschool) look much the same. They have a schedule for breakfast during the week which they are responsible for making (ex. Monday-oatmeal, Tuesday-eggs and biscuits or toast, Wednesday-Peanut butter and toast, etc) They clean up their mess in the kitchen. We do morning devotions, then I read to them recreationally for awhile. This time of giving myself and my time to them in this way is so sweet and rewarding, even on those days when Joshua has the fidgets and sighs several times during the process. After this, I usually have them do a chore outside of some kind, so that they have a break before bookwork. Lunch comes either before or during bookwork, depending on how early we get started.

One of the joys of homeschooling is that I can use whatever books or curriculum that I choose, and I can skip the garbage (such as teaching evolution as truth, perverted sex-ed, and relative truth). One of the other joys is that I can throw the whole schedule out if we have something else we need to get accomplished. We school all throughout the year, so we actually end up putting in more days than public school kids do, even with the days we choose to take off. I don't follow the breaks, holidays or schedules of the public school (because I don't have to!). I figure we are well-qualified to decide what days we want to take off without outside input. Before we moved, this resulted in a glorious family 2-week vacation each October at a beautiful campground about an hour from our (old) house. The only people present were quiet retired couples whom you hardly knew were there. This suited our family fine, as most of us don't prefer crowds at all.

After bookwork is free-time, during which they have a small list of items to complete at some point before bedtime. This usually gives them at least a couple of hours per day to play or do whatever they want. The joy of homeschooling is that their schoolwork IS their homework, so they aren't doing double work every day. Right before Jeff heads to bed, he leads our evening devotions (which I LOVE), and then we have a time of intercessory prayer for the needs on our lists. We each pray out loud for whatever is on our hearts. I can't express strongly enough how important this devotional and prayer time has been. The spiritual power of gathering as a family to devote time to prayer and study of His Word is felt strongly in the room, and I would encourage ALL Christ-honoring families to incorporate some form of this into their families. Uniting as a family in this way will reap eternal rewards; I sense this is true, so we always try to make time for this important part of our day. And it does require self-discipline, because any family can find at least 10 other things they could be doing instead of devotions and prayer, but once the habit is established, it is simply precious, precious time that I crave like water. I just want our lives to reflect that we are serious about God and His word. I don't want to fall into the shallow, follow-the-crowd, God-on-Sunday-and-Wednesday only crowd. There are martyrs the world over suffering because they were bold enough to stand up for their faith. They are very serious about their faith and following Jesus; that's the kind of faith I want.

This lifestyle we have cultivated definitely goes against the grain of society, and we like it that way, although at times it can be very lonely, and very hard. We don't feel like we have to keep up with the Jones', possession-wise, entertainment-wise, fad-diet/exercise plan-wise, or any other wise. On the other hand, we also don't charge into every fad in the Christian world, because fads in theology and church-related things blow through just as strongly as in the secular world. We have let God have control of our lives, and He has led us down some paths I never thought I would be on. For example, we went from the typical family with cable tv, rushing to see most of the new movies put out, buying our kids all the new Disney and kid-related movies, to down-sizing to having only Sky-angel (a satellite branch of Dish network that is Christian-oriented programming), and now we have no cable, no Sky-Angel, and no television. What I find ironic, and counter to everything that Jesus taught, is that most people think this is a bad thing! Like filling our minds with drivel and perversion is a right we should exercise, and exercise often.

That's not to say we never watch anything, or that our kids don't ever watch anything, because we do on occasion. We have two portable DVD players plus the computer on which we can watch something when we choose to, but those things we allow ourselves to watch has decreased as the movies have gotten more explicit. We also have taken a stand on anything with an occult-based theme, so that knocks out a bunch more choices. Basically, Jeff and I watch Monk (and there are a couple of episodes of that we don't allow ourselves), and the kids will occasionally watch something from their remaining selection of movies. Most of Amber and Josh's media entertainment consists of their complete collection of Adventures in Odyssey tapes. It's not that we don't understand or have never felt the pull of television and movie addiction, because we have. It's just that we have chosen what we feel is a better way. Just because we want it, or might enjoy it, doesn't make it a good thing. It really is okay to sometimes say no to our flesh for the glory of God and the betterment of our persons.

Jeff and I like it that we no longer feel the burning need to run and see the latest movie, or waste much of our time sitting in front of the screen, and we don't have to run out and buy the kids every new movie that comes out. We take our role seriously of protecting their eyes and ears until we feel they are mature enough to make those wise choices themselves. The innocence reflected in their eyes is worth all of the effort of resisting the times. That is not to say that we haven't had quite explicit conversations with them regarding the issues of their times. They know about homosexuality and what God has to say about it. They know what they need to know about sex, and what God's design for it is. We protect them from the constant bombardment of inaccurate and perverse interpretations of these issues, but we don't protect them from the issues themselves, because God's word deals with these things very clearly.

There is no sure-fire guarantee that our children will make Godly choices as they grow up, but I think that being proactive in all that we do is a good deposit into their futures. And they are worth it. They are worth some self-denial on our parts to give them something even better. A Godly teacher put it something like this, "Forsake the good, for the sake of the best."

I believe my job is to pour myself completely into my family; to honor, respect and love my husband as the head of our home; to teach my children daily about the most important things in life. I don't find that it insults my individuality at all to seek after these things. In fact, I have found the only fulfillment I have ever experienced in this life. Above all, I want to be a woman in whom Jesus can someday say, "Well-done, good and faithful servant." I live to hear those words.

Homemade Herbal Tea Bags

This afternoon, I worked on making my homemade herbal tea bags because I had used my last one a couple of days ago.  I gathered my materials:  empty press and seal tea bags, my two herb boxes full of herbs, and clothespins to hold my tea bags closed because this set of bags hasn't sealed like they are supposed to.  But that's ok, because the clothespins worked just fine last time.  I just took it off before brewing, and if any herbs came out of the bag into my tea, I just strained them off.

Empty Tea Bags

My assortment of individual herb bags

After spooning herbs into the bags, this is the finished product.












Herbs, in general, are one of the safest things that you can use. I mix and match what herbs I put in each tea bag. I may have 3 herbs in a bag, or I may have 6 different ones. The only herb I have dropped from my tea bag repertoire is nettle, because I just don't like the taste of it in tea. Also, any herb where the root is used is not really suitable for tea bags, as you have to boil it longer to extract the medicinal properties.

These bags I made make a gallon of tea. Sometimes I add sugar, but these all have stevia, a natural herb sweetener, in them, so I won't add additional sugar.

I get my herbs and empty tea bags from two places: bulkherbstore.com and morethanalive.com

This is not hard to do, and offers a lot of health benefits over store-bought tea
bags of any kind. This time I made around 15 bags, which will make 15 gallons of herbal tea. Should last awhile....